S4E5 Grievances!

[00:00:00] Speaker A: Foreign. [00:00:17] Speaker B: Hello, welcome, welcome, hello, hello, Candidly. Welcome to the podcast where we candidly navigate life's toughest moments and topics. This is Kelly. [00:00:27] Speaker A: Oh, this is K. Fleur. I feel like this is a really good time for us to, like, walk through some of the tough that we're dealing with these days, because everyone that I talked to was like, oh, Kelly's after it. Did you guys hear that? [00:00:43] Speaker B: Just kidding. It's a kombucha early today. Don't get too excited. But, yeah, literally. Yeah, I feel like right now. [00:00:52] Speaker A: Yeah, this is the talk episode. Anyway, before we jump into it, I just want to say, like, it was so incredibly amazing to go to Crystal Crane Hot Springs and see all my favorite people. And. Yeah, just feel like it was a really good filling of my cup. So I appreciate you inviting me and letting me bogart your little romantic vacay [00:01:13] Speaker B: with you and Michelle. Yeah. Cave has been our, like, bunk mate for the last two weekends, and it's been great. We've been able to hang out and just chat and catch up on things. But, yeah, obviously she's always welcome to Squish Bush Hangs. But it was Alexis and Riley's birthday, so we. And we've gone to Crystal Crane for Alexis's birthday for the past past five years. And then just the last two, we've been friends with Riley. And so her birthday is just a few days before Alexa. So it just worked out that it's like a double friend birthday weekend. And it's so fun. [00:01:46] Speaker A: It was great. [00:01:47] Speaker B: Yeah. And it's such a cool spot because it literally is like the middle of nowhere, but it doesn't really feel like it when you're at the resort. Like, I mean, there's not a whole lot going on, but, like, it's fun and it's cute and. But there's a lot of things are [00:02:00] Speaker A: great at the resort. [00:02:01] Speaker B: Yeah, totally. [00:02:02] Speaker A: The hot springs were, like, hands down, one of the top, if not the best hot springs I think I've been to. But then they also had. At our camp, they had, like, constructed two different carport things, so there was just like this massive little lounge spot with really good music and they had a bunch of food. So, um, yeah, it was how we do just, like, see everybody and. Yeah, Squish does not mess around when it comes to the camping game. They know what they're doing. [00:02:29] Speaker B: Yeah, we are good at. [00:02:31] Speaker A: Yeah, that's really good. [00:02:32] Speaker B: Yeah. Thank you for coming. That was awesome. Yeah, it was. Well, speaking of talking, it was cut short because my. I don't know if you all know, but I live with Mateo now. And so you all, as in the listeners, I live with Mateo. And so. [00:02:51] Speaker A: Wait, what? [00:02:52] Speaker B: I know. So. So my house is being rented, and I call it the frat house because there's three boys that are living in it. And if that doesn't tell you enough right there. But I thought they were a little responsible. But anyways, they call us on no text. Even worse text on Friday night and say that this, the carpet is squishy. And I'm like, the. Does that mean. Are you kidding me right now? And the one that texted, I thought was the most responsible. And yeah, and so I'm like, oh, my gosh, if he says the carpet is squishy, like, because I was thinking at first, like, I guess wishful thinking, like, oh, maybe someone just, like, cleaned the carpets or something. I don't know. Like, that's why it would be wet, you know? Yeah, right. But anyways, so, yeah, there was actually a leak. And. Oh, no, the, like, hose bib had cracked. And so we, like. Matt was, like, pretty certain, like, how it happened and what happened and where it happened and everything. And so he was pretty positive that it wasn't, like, activ and it wasn't, like, blowing water everywhere. And so we didn't leave Friday night. We ended up leaving on Saturday morning to come back to Bend. And then I was on the phone basically, the entire drive back from Burns with, like, plumbers and trying to find rental equipment for, like, fans and dehumidifiers and la, la, la, la. And so we had a plumber meet us at the house. And we got there, we had rented fans and dehumidifier and stuff for a billion dollars a day and ripped up all the carpet. Matt is such a superhero, and he just instantly went to work. And so we did have to say goodbye to cafe at that time, but Matt just, like, went into the house and pulled out all the insulation and pulled up all the carpet, and we just got the fans in there as soon as we possibly could. And it's looking really good right now. There's just, like, one area of the house that's still, like, a little bit higher than it should, but everything else is back down to normal, like, saturation levels of water. So, yeah, we're just, like, waiting. But I did return all the fans today. I did not go to work today. That's how much, like, we have going on right now. And then one of our tenants moved out on Monday, and so just trying to get it ready for the next tenant. So, yeah, we just are, like, buried and feeling like we can't cancel plans that we have this weekend. I'm sure we could. It just, like, feels really hard because we haven't seen those friends in a really long time. So, yeah, we're just trying to do it all, and it's feeling really heavy right now. But also, I mean, I guess this is, like, gonna kind of be my grievance in itself, but, like, how do people just do stuff like that? Like, I would never as a renter. You know what I mean? Like, I am just. I don't know, maybe I shouldn't talk on this podcast. [00:05:42] Speaker A: What do you mean? [00:05:43] Speaker B: I don't know who listens, but just, like, in terms of texting your landlords on a Friday night saying the floor is squishy without doing any investigating, or just, like, the fact that they left the hose on, like, for ever for extended period of time. When you live in Bend, Oregon, where things freeze, it's just, like, the lack of awareness or lack of life experience, I guess that's really just mind blowing to me. And, yeah, having to deal with the aftermath of that. And, like, it's hard because I've just, like, bleeding money at this point. Like, I'm just. Just spending money, spending money, spending money. But, like, I can't charge them for it. Like, it's a mistake. But, like, being a homeowner is awful. I was talking to my mom on the phone today about it, and. [00:06:33] Speaker A: Yeah, joys of being a homeowner. [00:06:36] Speaker B: Yeah. Sorry. I mean, I know. [00:06:39] Speaker A: Like, wait, so he. So sorry. Go ahead. [00:06:43] Speaker B: No, I was gonna say, don't you have, like, a bunch of terrible homeowner stories as well? I mean, mostly just, like, home renovation situations. But. [00:06:50] Speaker A: Yeah. Well, we. Doesn't really help that we bought this, like, 1960s house that didn't have a whole lot of updated stuff to it. So, like, there was a lot of electrical stuff that we had to do. I had to, like, redo a bathroom because there was a leak. So it helped in our, like, negotiating when we closed the house. But, yeah, I mean, being a homeowner is no joke when it comes to these types of repairs. And then if you're a landlord on top of that, like, do you charge a premium so that you can, like, cover some of these costs? But then you don't really know because this didn't. Like, this was something that they had deliberately left the hose on, it froze, the bib broke, and then it started leaking into your house. Like, how long had it been leaking for. We don't know. Yeah, I know it's really tough. And, like, the sucky thing is that if you, like, you're trying to get somebody into the house as quickly as possible so that you can start, like, you know, not having to cover that part of the mortgage. But do you trust these people? Do you know them? Like, they're obviously all individuals. Right. They're not like a family where they would. You would hope that, like, a family would have a little bit more wherewithal when it comes to, like, maintaining a house or a home. But I don't know. I mean, this is just one of those things about life that, like, you can't. You can't plan for. And yet when they happen, you're. This is. Okay, I'm kind of a crazy, like, OCD person. I probably need to go get, like, clinically diagnosed. But this is why my brain goes to, like, the nth degree, right? Like, I come across some kind of adversity or some hypothetical scenario, and I'm like, I need to think through all of the 12,000 things that could be the worst case scenario and have a plan for them. And then I start working my way back to, like, reasonable expectations and how to, like, you know, be a little prepared for it. But nine times out of 10, I'm not prepared for it because I'm spending all the time thinking about the worst case scenario. And it's just this, like, very cyclical, bad, anxiety inducing. It's a chokehold sometimes. [00:08:55] Speaker B: Like, it's really. It's hard. [00:08:57] Speaker A: I'm so sorry that this is happening to you. [00:08:59] Speaker B: It's okay. It's. [00:09:01] Speaker A: Matt's there, like. [00:09:02] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:09:02] Speaker A: Having somebody help you and, like, know kind of what they're doing or at least hold your hand and tell you that it's going to be okay. Like, that's such a. It's a game changer. It can be. [00:09:12] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:09:13] Speaker A: It's not like you're doing this by yourself. [00:09:15] Speaker B: Very thankful for him. I would not be alive if it weren't for him. Because, yeah, I'm just crying. Crying all the time. But I was gonna say. Sorry if you hear, like, some drilling. Mateo is currently making me a, like, plant shelf. So I thought that he wasn't going to be drilling right now, but I'm sorry if you can hear that weird sound in the background, he's very far away and it's still seems really loud in my headphones, so. But anyways, I was gonna say I was reading this book this morning. Thankfully, I did get to sleep in this morning. Otherwise I'd probably be very unwell right now. But. And it's only Tuesday, so that's the other thing where I'm like, oh, my gosh. Like, if I could take off this whole week, I would feel so much better, you know, about, like, yeah, just getting back to square one. Like, where we. Because I literally. I mean, you would know. I literally just did the dishes in the sink from the rv. Like, that's how busy we've been. Like, that's gross. Because it hasn't been, like, top of mind, like, Saturday from Friday, basically. [00:10:15] Speaker A: Oh, God. [00:10:17] Speaker B: I know. Which is foul. But, like, we had, like, I just cleaned the whole RV and got it all packed and ready again for this weekend. And. Yeah, yeah, it's just like, thing after thing after thing. But anyways, so I was reading this book this morning, and in the book, it was saying, like, she was talking specifically about just, like, how life feels overwhelming sometimes and whatever. Anyways. But her thing was is that if it wasn't this, it would be something else. And that's true. I did have to, like, take that to heart because, yeah, I was just like, dang. Like, I don't know. Like, obviously I have a lot of other burdens that I are not necessarily everyone's situation. Like, because I'm a homeowner and everything. But, yeah, if it wasn't this, I'd be stressing about something else. Like, I guess since this is taking over my brain power, I haven't been thinking about working kind of to your point of, like, life is just overwhelming. And I just go to, like, the nth degree of, like, how terrible it could be. And so, yeah, then I really do get brought back to earth where I'm like, okay, I can only, like, literally put one foot in front of the other. And like, today was that day where I literally feel like I didn't do anything. Matt did tell me that I did do a lot of things, but. Which made me feel better. But I was like, I took off this whole day of work, and I literally spent, like, 90% of my day at my house and feel like I didn't do anything. Like, I don't know. And so I'm just frustrated because, yeah, like, this house still also has to, like, function. Like, we haven't done laundry. Like, we haven't, like, cooked a meal in the house, like, since we've been home. You know, it's just, like, stuff like that where it's like, oh, my God, we can't even, like, make food. For ourselves, we have, like, no time. And so, again, I'm just gonna get on my soapbox about not working from home because it's so annoying not saying that that would change everything, but it would just be, like, so nice to be able to do little things in between, like, laundry or, you know, this, that, or the other. So, yeah, anyways, yeah, it's been quite the day. Sorry, this is just like, a fest. But, yeah, I'm. First of all, I just want to say that how could people. And then I'm, like, not surprised at all. You know what I mean? Just like. [00:12:20] Speaker A: Yeah, that's the thing. It's like, I'm shocked in the moment. I'm obviously, like, really annoyed, but I'm not surprised. And I guess, like, that makes me even more. More annoying or annoyed because I knew walking into this scenario, like, that is likely, xyz, likely would have happened. And now that it's happened, I'm like, great. What's the next step? How do I get through this? I will say, though, out of all the things in my life, I am very blessed. Like, I am healthy, I have my family. I am not, like, so far off the deep end, but I have built up, like, a level of resiliency to figure out all the various scenarios and, like, random situations that I've been on in my life. So every time we come through some kind of adverse situation or, like, troubling time, I. I want to just focus on it making me a better person. Because, like, I'm always going to be a panicker. Like, I'm gonna have anxiety until I probably die of a heart attack. Like, that's. I can probably foresee that in my future, which is kind of sad. But I do know that, like, no matter what happens, at least I take a step back, I breathe through it. It's gonna work out, like, resiliency, patience, and, like, having some faith in the fact that I am not, like, such a tragic human being. That has been a little bit of a. A silver lining, I guess. I would say. So, yeah. Because there is a lot of stuff going on right now. Like, we're in our. We're in our mid-30s. We've got career stuff, we've got relationships, we've got housing, we've got medical things. We've got just, like, one after the other. I feel like we can't catch a goddamn break. But then is this a unique experience just for us in the millennials? Or is this something that, like, people generally go through in their 30s and then 40s tend to be, like, a little bit more calmer because, you know, you went through all the shenanigans. [00:14:12] Speaker B: I can hear that you have that one. Yeah, right. That's what I'm trying to figure out now is, like, yeah, okay, so we're running through this roadblock, but, like, yeah, what is gonna be next? Or what could be the alternative? Like, I'm glad it's not something else, you know? So anyways, trying to just be thankful until it's. [00:14:32] Speaker A: That's something else, right? [00:14:33] Speaker B: Yeah, totally. [00:14:34] Speaker A: Oh, God. Can we just, like, make this one episode all about being grieved? Like, being grateful is just taxing on my emotional heart right now. [00:14:42] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:14:43] Speaker A: To, like, a little bit. Like, it's hard to feel grateful. [00:14:46] Speaker B: What other things do you have any. Do you have a list of grievances that you can pull from for this episode? [00:14:52] Speaker A: Girl, let's go. [00:14:53] Speaker B: Let's hear it. [00:14:54] Speaker A: Well, I would say shoot here. [00:14:58] Speaker B: What. [00:14:58] Speaker A: What can I start with? I'm grieved that I did a bunch of yard work this last weekend, and I have, like, 18,000 bug bites on my arm. So I'm just, like, annoyed at bugs and I'm annoyed at pollinators, and I'm annoyed at my freaking yard and the. All the stuff. I'm annoyed my husband is having, like, a big, I don't know, question mark in his career. We don't know if we're going to, like, keep this house, if we really like Portland or if we don't like Portland, where we're going to go. So I'm kind of, like, grieved with this angst in my current situation where, like, I don't know what the next step is, and I don't. I won't know that until, like, maybe a month or two in the future, which is just really frustrating. Yeah. I'm grieved that the woman at the store, when I was going to get a glass or a bottle of wine, because it was one of those weekends, and she cut me in front of the line, and I'm like, dude, I only have three items. Literally, she cut me. She was, like, 80 years old at Safeway, and she just, like, had to, like, go right in front of me, and I'm like, oh, my. Of course it didn't say anything because, like, I look tragic. I'm, like, sweaty and disgusting in my flannel because I haven't. I just, like, finished yard work. So I was, like, already annoyed, and I knew I was going to blow up on her, and she's only, like, 80 and 5 foot nothing. So I just want to, like, let her have a moment. But damn, that really got me. I had, like, hot Cheetos. I had a bottle of wine and, like, my sweethearts. And I was like, I have three items and you have a whole basket full. Like, you can clearly see me walking towards the, like, checkout. [00:16:28] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:16:29] Speaker A: Anyway, Fuck that noise. WinCo's got some. Or no, I was at Safeway. Safeway has some pretty interesting individuals. What else? Yeah, I'm with you. My phone case needs to be replaced, so I'm just annoyed that, like, the phone is gonna be something I have to pay a million dollars for. Yeah, everything is so expensive these days. [00:16:51] Speaker B: Are you getting a new phone? [00:16:52] Speaker A: I can go on and on. [00:16:53] Speaker B: You have like a 12 or something? [00:16:55] Speaker A: I don't think so. Yeah, I think it's a 15. And they just came out with the 17. So if I can. If I can keep it for another two years, I feel like I'll probably be fine. But it's annoying. I don't want to have to pay a thousand dollars for a new phone every five freaking years. Like, just make one that lasts long, you know? [00:17:14] Speaker B: Yeah, totally. No, it's real. [00:17:16] Speaker A: Anyway, I'm with you on what else can I be grieved at? Oh, my new mascara that I bought from Ulta last week is, like, clumpy. It's all hell. Oh, what the hell. So, yeah, [00:17:29] Speaker B: that's really annoying also. You know, though, like, mascara is like, my top thing where I like, if you find a good one, you do not veer from it because good mascara is few and far between. Like, they are not all made the same 100. [00:17:44] Speaker A: No, they're not. I would normally just get the L', Oreal, but I could not find the L' Oreal in any stores. Like, they don't even sell it at Ulta and they stop selling it at, [00:17:53] Speaker B: like, I don't know what. [00:17:55] Speaker A: L'. [00:17:56] Speaker B: Oreal. [00:17:56] Speaker A: It's like a gray. It's the l'. Oreal. It's the gray thing from l'. Oreal. But they don't. [00:18:03] Speaker B: The only era that I know that works that's not like, the one that I currently use is like, the green and pink one. That's like the only. That's like the mascara I will die on. That's like an OG double. [00:18:15] Speaker A: Like, yeah, like the eight dollar. Like the CoverGirl one. [00:18:19] Speaker B: Is it CoverGirl? I can't even remember the brand. [00:18:21] Speaker A: I don't know. [00:18:22] Speaker B: Yeah, you could be right. [00:18:23] Speaker A: I do remember wearing a lot of that. In college and in, like, high school. [00:18:26] Speaker B: And they have like a blue one and a brown one. I don't know what you're totally. You keep just saying. [00:18:33] Speaker A: Anyway, because I'm not shopping at Walmart. I'm not shopping at Target or any of these dumb stores. I had to obviously go to Ulta and then I bought the Ulta brand and it sucks. Like, hardcore sucks. I'm very disappointed in the Ulta brands. I can hear him in the background. [00:18:48] Speaker B: I'm sorry. I'm sorry, everyone. [00:18:51] Speaker A: Anyway, give me all of your grievance. Grievances. Just, like, lay it on me. [00:18:55] Speaker B: Yeah, well, okay. I will. I will say just being a homeowner number one, because I kind of went into that. But, like, yeah, bad tenants. Matt and I were talking about it on the way here because we just were at my house again for the third time today. And yeah, it's just like, I wish I could Venmo request them for my time because literally today I. I could only Venmo request them for, like, the things that were broken and things like that. But just like, I was there all day. I took a whole day off of work. Like, I need to. It's just like that kind of stuff, you know, it was just like. I guess it comes with the territory, but like multiple things. Well, okay, the flooding is a whole separate situation than this other situation that's happening. But I'm not going to talk about it on the pod because I don't want to bring light to it. But, yeah, so we're dealing with that also. So it's not just the flooding situation. Like, that is the worst case scenario probably. [00:19:52] Speaker A: Oh, Lord. [00:19:53] Speaker B: But just like, yeah, the fact that we're switching tenants over and just the state of my house and I was very upset on Monday. And so, yeah, anyway, it is what it is. So, yeah, we're just, like, looking for really good tenants and hopefully we can start over with, like, the new tenants that we're getting in tomorrow and whatever. So. Yeah, but then it's also just like, how long do I keep my house for? Like, I don't even know. Like, it's gaining equity, but, like, is it? I don't know. So, yeah, homeownership just in general is pretty terrible. Then I also have a grievance about driving. But, you know, we always have grievances about driving this. [00:20:34] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:20:36] Speaker B: You know what, people? When you're at a stoplight and the light turns green and then no one moves that drive. [00:20:43] Speaker A: Lay on your horn. [00:20:45] Speaker B: Actually insane. I'm like, what it's been, I know, maybe like three cars back. But like it's been well, like a minute and no one like people are moving, but like they're going so slow. You're just like the light has been green for a very long time. Like you should already be through the light. Like, why is everyone taking this at a snail's pace? That's why not everyone gets through the frickin light. That pisses me off. Like, it makes me so angry. Not to mention also just like this sounds horrible, but just like when pedestrians are dumb because like you're holding up all of traffic. [00:21:18] Speaker A: You know what I mean? [00:21:19] Speaker B: Like there was today, there was like this car and they were already driving so, so slow in front of me. And like the road by between my in Mateo's house is like 25 miles an hour. Which, whatever, it is annoying. But I do think it's important because so many people live through here. But whatever, but so this car is going 25 miles an hour, which drives me crazy. Even though it is a 25 mile an hour zone. But I always drive like 33 because that's what normal person does. You know What I mean? [00:21:46] Speaker A: 25 hour. [00:21:47] Speaker B: I know. And so they're already driving literally the speed limit. And then a pedestrian comes and you know, they're just like doing the like, oh, and they need a cross. But like the car. And so the car like stops and like slows down and then pedestrian still [00:21:59] Speaker A: like, oh my God. [00:22:00] Speaker B: Yeah, like going back and forth. Like I'm like, just run across the street. I like, I was getting so angry. I was just honking my horn because I was like, excuse me, someone has to freaking go. Either the pedestrian go or the car go. Like I don't give a shit. Just someone go, like, why is this happening? Everyone's already. Yeah. And like you're already moving at a glacier pace. Like, I want to murder you all. And then at Costco, okay, I went to Costco today because, you know, just add it to the list. But why, where's all Costco? Why was all of bend at Costco today at like noon? I'm like, excuse me, does no one have a job? What is happening? Why is there so many people there? There's like lines everywhere, right? Isn't that confusing? It pissed me off. I like for sure thought I was like, I'm gonna go in, I'm gonna get my prescription really fast and then I'm gonna run around and do get a bunch of stuff and then be out. Oh my God. It was like a Whole ordeal, I was like, wow, I regret this decision, like, very, very much. Also, not to mention, the next thing is, is that I had to buy two new toilet seats today. This whole other subject for my house. And, okay, putting a toilet seat on, I feel very, like, handy for a girl. I will say caveat, little star, a little asterisk. For a girl, I'm very handy. [00:23:20] Speaker A: Don't do that to yourself. Come on now. Girls could be very handy. They can. [00:23:24] Speaker B: But I don't pride myself in being handy because I don't care. Like, it doesn't. It doesn't bother me. Like, I think that boys should do that stuff, but whatever. That is, like, one of my, like, gender norm things that I will, like, die behind. Whereas, like, I like cooking sometimes. There definitely needs to be times when the boys cook, but I like cooking more than I like fixing shit. So, like, those are where our gender norms, like, fall in. Anyways, so I'm a very handy girl, but it took me 30 minutes to freaking figure out how to put this toilet seat on because they made it, like, a universal one. That had to explain it to me because I was gonna cry. Yeah, they made it, like, a universal one so that it fits any toilet. And so you had to, like, cut off this part. Part of the freaking bolt. [00:24:10] Speaker A: Who? What? [00:24:11] Speaker B: It didn't say that in the instructions. You're supposed to just know that magically. Like, you're supposed to just know that this is, like, going to fit every toilet, and so you just have to, like, make it fit for your toilet. No, I'm, like, trying to freaking. I'm like, why is this not going on? Because it doesn't fit. Because you have to cut it down. Anyways, I was. I almost. Yeah, that's when I almost took someone [00:24:34] Speaker A: out it actually ever replaced. Oh, okay. [00:24:38] Speaker B: I mean, it was just one of those situations where I was ready to throw blows. Yeah. Where I was like, this is my time, and this is where I'm using my time today. And this is not an efficient use of my time because someone can't write on the instructions that it's for universal toilet or whatever the. So, anyways, yeah, that pissed me off. And then. Not to mention the fact that, like, I almost lost it when I thought that I had to go back to Lowe's to replace the toilet seat because it doesn't fit on the toilet. No, it just had to be cut anyway, so then, you know, then it also feels terrible when Matt has to come save the day because I'm gonna cry and he had to cut it and whatever. And it's fine. We survived. But that kind of pisses me off where I'm like, this should just be again, I think I talked about this on the podcast a few weeks ago, but there should be a homeowner's guide for shit like that for girls, you know what I mean? Where it's just like, this is stuff you should know. Like, you can replace the toilet seat and you can put a bidet on yourself. Like, I've done all these things, but there's like, little caveats to everything that could make your life a lot easier that no one ever tells you, and it's fucking annoying. So anyways, those are just grievances from my day today. So if that tells you anything. [00:25:45] Speaker A: Oh, man. Well, I would. [00:25:46] Speaker B: That's where we're at. [00:25:48] Speaker A: What do they call that? Support your writing the book of things that people should tell people. Women in particular, especially women in, like, their 20s and their 30s, because men are dogs. And not all men, but mostly men. And sometimes it's nice to know, like, you don't have to ask the question, you already know how to replace a toilet seat. Or you already know, like, what a Phillip head screwdriver is or like, how to change a filter of your air machine. Yeah, Like, I just cleaned my AC unit and I had to watch a little YouTube video on how to, like, get all the grates out, clean it out, blah, blah, blah. Yeah, I know. We should be. And we should do that for, like, how to travel by yourself, how to deal with your finances, how to make sure that, like, your car. And how to change your oil. [00:26:32] Speaker B: Yeah, car one's a good one. [00:26:33] Speaker A: Change your brakes in your car. Things like that that you shouldn't be going to, like a jiffy loop and paying 150 bucks for. You could totally just do it in the back in the backyard by yourself with a little patience. [00:26:42] Speaker B: Yeah. I will say the finance, I don't know thing is really interesting. I was talking to one of my co worker, one of my office mates, so she's technically not a co worker. We don't work for the same agency. But yeah, we're talking about women in finance or just women's finances in general yesterday, and she has a really interesting takes on it. I mean, all things that I like, agree with 100, but she's just like, I think it's so interesting how, like, people choose to like a lot more these days, obviously, like, have financial independence from their partner and. Yeah, just like how I still have my house and whatever Obviously, Matt and I aren't married or anything, so it's not like I would get rid of my house, but, you know, just like, things like that of, like, choosing to, like, have different separate finances and then, like, split everything equally and. Yeah. [00:27:27] Speaker A: Anyway, so, yeah, my husband and I do that. It's all 50 50, which is why it's such a struggle if he's, like, making so much more than me. But then there are people who I recommend or I, you know, I could totally see this happening where you take an approach dependent upon, like, how much you're bringing or, like, whatever. It doesn't always have to be 50, 50, but of the women that I'm speaking to, more and more people are doing that. [00:27:48] Speaker B: I don't. [00:27:49] Speaker A: I don't know if that's like an epidemic or whatever, but it is a thing. So if you have the ability to, like, have separate finances or even a separate secret bank account, which I do. Like, I have a savings account that I don't tell him about. He doesn't listen to the pot anyway, so, like, that'll just be for us. And, like, I want to have my own, you know, my own life insurance policy. I want to have my own brokerage account and things like that, because it just makes a lot. It just makes a lot of sense. So, yeah, it's really interesting, you know, we don't need men for everything. You can totally have a baby by yourself. Because usually they're just like more added stress anyway, so. Unless, you know, not all of us are as lucky as to have a Mateo to help us figure out all that stuff when we're crying. Because, yeah, it sucks when you don't have that. [00:28:37] Speaker B: Yeah, for sure. [00:28:39] Speaker A: I have a theory, though. I know that this is kind of like our bitch podcast, because life is lifing right now. And I have a theory. I don't really subscribe to astrology and, like, zodiac stuff, but I think it's like, endlessly entertaining. So Uranus is entering into Gemini for the first time in 75 years or 73 years, I think. Oh, my gosh. Okay. Don't quote me on that. Do you want me. [00:29:04] Speaker B: What does that mean? Yeah, you have to tell me what that means. [00:29:10] Speaker A: Well, it means let me do a little Googling and I'll actually have something that I can share with you. Okay. So Uranus is in Taurus. It's a long term astrological transition or transit to revolutionize finance, material security, agriculture, environmental systems. So Uranus is an embodiment of radical change in Earth, whereas Taurus is fixed stability, fixed resources. So right now, if you're finding that you are rethinking a lot or things are breaking down or decentralization of norms in your life, it could be that Uranus or Uranus. I don't know. [00:29:54] Speaker B: I think it's Uranus. Yeah. [00:29:56] Speaker A: Is, like, kind of encouraging. Encouraging these types of, like, transitional periods. So let me go ahead and just read this is something I found on TikTok. It's stupid again. I don't subscribe to astrology. I think it's just, like, endlessly entertaining, but for Taurus, because your birthday is in a week, I think 10 days. [00:30:15] Speaker B: 10 days. Spencer's sorry. Speaking of, I did want to say sorry for all the bitching, but this is Spencer's birthday episode. Happy birthday, Spencer Pence, 38 on the 28th. Yeah. Crazy. [00:30:29] Speaker A: Oh, my gosh. I love that. You guys are both Tauruses too. Okay, so here's your Taurus rising. Your second house of money and values is affected. Income may fluctuate or come from unexpected sources, and your definition of stability could shift. So stay practical, stay on top of. And just. It just says, like, don't let the things go by. Like, pay attention to it, basically. But yeah, so I guess, like, things are shifting a little bit and just take a step back to ground yourself and stay practical with your resources, with your time, with your energy, your anxiety, because it's gonna. It's gonna fluctuate just a little bit. So Taurus and then Gemini. And Gemini. My husband's a Gemini. So it's kind of like. It's also really aligned with the Chinese moment in time or the Chinese zodiac, where it's that year of the fire horse. So it's very, like, transformative. It's very kind of like burning the house of cards down to rebuild from the bottom up. At least that's the way that I've been kind of thinking about it. [00:31:33] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:31:34] Speaker A: Do you want me to read the Scorpio? [00:31:36] Speaker B: Oh, yeah. Let's hear yours. [00:31:38] Speaker A: Okay. So Scorpio, Uranus activates your eighth house. So shared finances, debt, or emotional bonds may shift unpredictably, which I can attest to. This is a deep transformational phase. Psychologically, behaviorally, relationships and stability. Again, like stability and resources. It's all kind of, like, shifting. So I'm kind of sick of this fire horse energy. I just want it to be peaceful and calm. And we're literally only in April. [00:32:08] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:32:08] Speaker A: Slash May, but also crazy April. I know, I know. April was a really long month. It was Feel like it was a very tumultuous behavior. Like it was just a lot of emotions that were going on in April. So thank God that's almost over and we're jumping into May and June and summer is always very busy for the both of us. So I don't think that we're going to get a reprieve any moment in the near future. But hopefully by the end of summer things will kind of calm down a little bit. I'm ready. Because, yeah, life is life thing. [00:32:42] Speaker B: I know. Yeah. [00:32:43] Speaker A: I would love to hear from a listener or from people if they're having like really hard times or hard moments in their life or if you're not, if you're having the like time of your life, tell me and I'll live like curiously through you. [00:32:54] Speaker B: Yeah, literally, I couldn't be me. Could not be me. I mean, I'm also. It's so hard because, yeah, I am so grateful and I'm able to do so many things and I'm able to fulfill all these things that I like promise myself to. But man, I am pooped. So. Yeah, it's just like also having a full time job. Like, man, who said going to work five days a week, can we have that as a grievance also? It's like going to work five days a week. What a fudgeing joke, man. Like that should be illegal. Like, I'm sorry, I think that's crazy. And I know you've been going to the office for a million years, but I just cannot. I cannot even get over the fact [00:33:31] Speaker A: that that's so fucking. I don't blame you. [00:33:33] Speaker B: And I hate it so much. Packing a lunch, getting ready, getting dressed every day. Like being a real human every day. Having to like talk to a bunch of people every day in my office, which I love. I love the people in my office. It's not it at all. And I do think it's so interesting like reframing that into being like, wow, I get to like meet all these people in Bend that I would have never even known existed. But because we got had to get sent back to work, we like got to meet. And so I am grateful for that. But man, yeah, it is trying on my little noggin sometimes. So yeah, here we go. Sometimes I just have to like it [00:34:05] Speaker A: to wear jeans in the office or do you have to like really wear like office appropriate clothing? [00:34:11] Speaker B: No, it's very casual. Like I can wear leggings with like boots and like a long sweater even. Like, it's. It's Very, very chill. Wow. I mean, everyone in the office wears jeans for sure. I don't think everyone dresses like I do, but I'm pretty. I'm pretty lax because I like to be comfy. If I have to wear these clothes for 10 hours a day, I need to be comfy. I am not wearing, like, you know, tight anything. I'm wearing, like, baggy pants and silly, you're lucky sweatshirts. [00:34:41] Speaker A: I have to wear, like, like that slacks and a blazer or, like, a dress in a blazer. [00:34:46] Speaker B: Oh, my God. [00:34:47] Speaker A: Like, I have to have, like, work office appropriate clothing. [00:34:50] Speaker B: Oh, my God. Ew. [00:34:52] Speaker A: Which is not that bad. So I, like, really wanted to get into that. Like, I really like looking good. [00:34:58] Speaker B: True. [00:34:59] Speaker A: But yeah, it is kind of sucky that I have to, like, get dressed and do all that crap. [00:35:04] Speaker B: But yeah. [00:35:04] Speaker A: Anyway, we bitched for a whole 35 minutes. I'm really proud of us. Absolutely. [00:35:11] Speaker B: Sorry to everybody who was, like, looking for something, like, substantial this week, and it's not. It's not happening. It's not. You're not gonna get it from us. But hopefully everyone liked the episode with Vince last week. It's the bet. He is just the best. We love him so much. And mom edited the pod. [00:35:27] Speaker A: I cannot believe it took us that long to get him. [00:35:29] Speaker B: I know. [00:35:29] Speaker A: Onto the podcast again. We'll definitely have to remedy that. We'll get him back on sooner for sure. [00:35:35] Speaker B: Yeah. But mom edited the pod and she texted us. She was like, oh, my God, the episode is so good. I love it. And so I was like, yay. I can't wait for everyone to get to hear Min again. So also, we just appreciate any of our friends who. Who are constant listeners and also want to come on the pod. So if anyone wants to come, just let us know. But anyways, I think that's enough for us today. I'm, like, literally brain dead, so I'm gonna go try to be productive for the rest of the evening and then do it all again tomorrow. No, I wish I could take off tomorrow as well, but I'm definitely not going to. But yeah, anyways, yeah, I have to [00:36:15] Speaker A: go into the office tomorrow. [00:36:17] Speaker B: Okay. Yeah, I'm sorry. Yeah, happy. Whatever. [00:36:21] Speaker A: I go into the office every day. Well, happy Spencer's birthday week. Let's just, like, hang on to that because we love to celebrate all the things. Yay, Tauruses. My favorite people. [00:36:33] Speaker B: Oh, thank you. [00:36:36] Speaker A: All right, all right. Well, thank you, executive producer. Appreciate all the work that she's done. We love you, you. [00:36:42] Speaker B: We love you. [00:36:43] Speaker A: And thanks for being candid. Bye.